Stop throwing around
Published August 12, 2026
Hey, gorgeous people. I hope everybody's having a wonderful day today. Hey, listen. Check it out.
I want to point something out here. Right now, especially right now, you're hearing a lot of words get thrown around. Narcissist, manipulating, controlling, not taking accountability. I am hearing these words on a daily as a hairstylist and as a life coach.
So, I wanted to take a second to point out to everybody that these are all act true, scientific, psychology form, dictionary form words. They should not be used lightly. They should not be thrown around. Okay?
So, we all as humans have narcissistic tendencies. Everybody! There's not a single person out there that doesn't. Small little tendencies, right?
And every one of us is different. We're different in the way we talk, we're different in the way we think, we're all different. So unless somebody is like, by golly you're not leaving, by golly, da da da da da da da. You're not going to do this and you're not going to do that and taking your keys and keeping you hostage and those things are control.
That is control. Something that we as society have gotten away from is our general respect for our partners and our families and appreciation. So when somebody is requesting that you let them know when you're on your way home, if somebody is wanting you to check in at lunch, they're not being controlling they're showing you they care and honestly that used to be in the normal of caring it's not anymore it's not when we hurt somebody, you can't just say i'm sorry for the pain i caused and leave it at that, You have to show that you are sorry. I'm sorry for the pain I caused you.
How can I make it up to you? What can I do to be better for us? Because this is not my intention. Today, society has messed up and social media has messed up so much in our family core values, in our own personal core values.
So today, I want you to take a second. I want you to look at the people in your circle. Look at the people that you love. And I want you instead of wondering is it manipulation if it's control if it's all these things that are in our face all day they're in people's mouths they're all over our phones they're everywhere right stop and realize, are they showing love and respect in an older fashion way, or are they really controlling you, You can't say somebody's monopolizing you whenever you're monopolizing them.
You have to be able to truly apologize, listen to each other show each other respect, appreciation. Sometimes in life we get caught up in what's going on in our world that we don't even realize how often somebody is dropping everything for us. We don't even realize how often we matter to people. Don't realize when we're being prayed for don't realize when we're being sacrificed for we're just not getting one specific thing or you know but.
When it comes down to it when you appreciate the people that are there it blossoms, when you stop making friends and family feel like an enemy and they stop making you feel like an enemy, it blossoms when you are not standing in a corner by yourself and you're not making other people stand in a corner by themselves guess what again it blossoms so like i said i'm challenging you to sit back and look because honest to god, if you If you are getting mad, because somebody is asking of old-fashioned respect, old-fashioned love, and somebody is wanting to be there for you, or they have been there and you are rejecting it and not being kind and soft, Not trying to understand, communicate, and get on the same page They're not the one in the wrong dude y'all catch that if you have somebody in your life and they are constantly trying to give you an opportunity to understand and to be able to be seen and just they keep showing up and you keep refusing to see it acknowledge it appreciate it, and you want to treat them like an enemy. They're not in the wrong. That means you have somebody that truly wants to be there in your corner. That means you're truly loved.
So maybe instead of society's norms or what norm has become maybe as a whole we all need to step back and start showing appreciation. It's more than just appreciating yourself. If you appreciate yourself only and you're not appreciating the people around you, that's self-centered if you take care of yourself and you appreciate yourself but you're also out there showing it to other people, but they're refusing to see it and acknowledge it and give you that and instead they're just sitting back oh I don't matter to you oh wow. Just wow right we all know what I'm talking about everybody's experienced it I've experienced it you've experienced everybody has.
That is a disconnect in somebody else. That is a blocker in somebody else. That is a refusal within themself, not you. So just keep showing love.
Keep showing up and one of two things are going to happen. They're going to appreciate it. They're going to see it for what it really is, for the real love it is not for superficial love but for the real there when it's hard kind of love showing up showing that you care that they matter, at the end of the day those are the people you keep in your corner those are the people you appreciate and if you're not maybe you need to stop and take a good long, Till then, remember you're awesome. Make today as amazing as you are.
Love you. Peace out.